This TedTalk, Celeste Headlee’s “10 ways to have a better conversation,” is FULL of good advice.
The TedTalk is less than 12 minutes long, but if you want to jump in to the start of her Top 10 list, jump to 4:09.
What resonates the most with you? What do you plan on working on for yourself?
A few quotes (but, really, go ahead and listen to the full TedTalk. You can also read along with the transcript option):
Don’t multitask. . . I mean, be present. Be in that moment. Don’t think about your argument you had with your boss. …
Taking time to focus on ourselves is anything but selfish. Taking time to give ourselves space and learn to heal, to learn how to shift our thinking, to process emotions in a helpful way — these are all forms of true self care. This type of self-care recharges us so that we can be in the world in a better way. By showing up for ourselves, we show up better for those around us.
You are worthy of spending time on you.
Here’s a quick video (originally an Instagram Live video)to share another technique with you to help mitigate stress, anxiety and worry. The Peripheral Vision Technique is also called “Stopping the World” and is a great way to calm your mind, bring yourself back to the present moment, and let your body know that you are safe.
Self-care looks different for everyone. I’m sharing my personal self-care plan with an invitation to do what works for you.
VOTE. Voting is part of my self-care plan because it an act of power. It is something I have DONE to make a difference. In anxiety, stress and worry, our brain often searches for things we can control. Part of my self-care plan is to remind myself that I VOTED, reminding my mind I have taken action.
REMEMBER THE AGENCY I HAVE. On that note, I remind myself what I AM in control of. I am in control of how I spend my time, what I read or listen to, how I care for myself, others, and my surroundings. …
I made a quick video to share with you a technique to help mitigate stress and anxiety and worry. The 5 Finger Technique is both a breathing technique and a mindfulness technique to help calm your mind and body and support you in finding more resilience.
Let me know what you think of the technique! I’d love to hear. You can share with me via Facebook at fb.com/keridwyn or message me at keridwyn.com/contact
I learned this technique from Dr. Jud Brewster, the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at MIT. Thank you, Dr. Jud!
You’re probably familiar with some cognitive bias tendencies, even if you aren’t familiar with that term.
I really enjoy learning about cognitive biases and exploring what biases I have a tendency to use.
This infographic shares a bunch — I had never heard of The Ikea Effect before, but I’ve experienced it before.
Feel share your thoughts on any of these biases — I’d love to hear what you think and feel and which ones resonate with you!
Screenshot clip from Infographic:
When she’s triggered and feeling defensive, Brene Brown repeats this to herself:
“I am here to get it right, not to be right.”
I can think of a few potential moments where this reminder will come in handy for me. A reminder to ask questions, to be open to adjusting our beliefs, to expand our understanding.
Sharing this quote in case it resonates with you.