Feeling a lot of feelings right now

(many of them big, hard feelings,

with some love and gratitude mixed in).

Doing an ok job of processing.

But dang, it’s hard to be a human sometimes, isn’t it?

I feel like a soda fountain drink

where someone’s added some

of every flavor available.

And the flavors are Feelings.

And the soda is HOT.

And is going a bit flat.

I know feelings pass.

All feelings pass, it’s true.

Every feeling I have ever had

has had an endpoint.

That always helps me to remember,

when I’m in the thick of it.

Stuck in the syrup

of a hard emotion (or 12).

Thank you, Body,

for healing.

Thank you, Brain,

for resting.

Thank you, Self,

for reminding me:

not all thoughts are true.

I’ve got the tools

to make it through.

Time for another sip of water.

Here’s a safety tip:

Ask someone to be your emergency contact, then MEMORIZE their phone number(s).

I’ve been surprised how many clients in my office have had to pull out their phones to look up their emergency contact’s number to write it on their form.

My invitation: take a moment today to memorize your contact’s number. In case something happens and you don’t have access to your phone, you’ll want to know it by heart.

Already know your emergency contact’s number? Consider who else you would really want to be able to reach if you no longer had anyone’s numbers. Memorize a new number today. (Personally, I had memorized my parents’ home number but wasn’t confident I knew their cell phone numbers by heart. Now I’m confident I’ve got them right!)

Enjoy the safer feelings that come along with this little memory exercise.

“I feel so wonderful already. It’s like someone’s opened a window and let the breeze in. These tools make so much sense. This is so good.”

A recent client shared this with me, having come to me with the goal of letting go of unhelpful worrisome thoughts and physical anxiety sensations.

What a great way to describe the feeling of relief and comfort that comes with making a change like this. An open window. Letting the breeze in. I’m grateful to have been a part of this change with them.

What’s one thing you can do today, tomorrow, or this coming weekend to nurture yourself?

Asking yourself this question on a daily basis can allow you to discover more ways to add more relaxation in life, ultimately recharging you and helping you find more contentment and energy when you want it.

If you’re on Facebook, check out some answers to that question from other Reframe Your Brain readers on the post at https://www.facebook.com/groups/reframeyourbrain/permalink/772307333467560/.

If you’re not on FB, post in the comments below.

I had the pleasure to celebrate working with over THREE HUNDRED one-on-one Hypnotherapy clients in my practice. What a joy to be able to be a part of so many people’s changes. Thank you for having me be a part of your path to feeling better!

Sending you love,

Keridwyn

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I am a huge fan of psychologist Dr. Becky (at Good Inside) and her recent short IGTV video shares a powerful reframe.

In this short video, Dr. Becky presents the difference between what she calls “true guilt” and what is someone else’s disappointment (or someone else’s distress).

Watch Dr. Becky’s short video, “Rethinking Guilt,”:

Video on IGTV: https://www.instagram.com/p/CO9ALPpHvwK/

My takeaways (watch the short video before reading this bit)

Here are two good questions to ask ourselves when we’re not sure if it’s our guilt or someone else’s distress:

1. Is this decision (or action) in accordance with my values?

2. Who owns this feeling?

If it is true guilt (we aren’t acting or deciding in accordance to our…

Esther Perel (Psychotherapist, author) is offering a free 7 day challenge called The Art of Foreplay, which starts this week.

Ester writes: “The Art of Foreplay. Join me for a free, seven-day challenge. Each day, you’ll receive an email with an audio message from me and a simple, playful exercise to help you go deeper.

Sign up here: bitly.com/7daysforplay

Couples and individuals alike can benefit from an opportunity to slow down and spend some quality time with the self or a trusted partner. …

Keep the lessons, release the pain. Giving your past self excess grief, punishment, or guilt won’t change a thing for the better.

Close your eyes. Picture your younger self. Send them some love. Let them know what you have learned, how you show up differently now (or will in the future). Send them some love, some forgiveness. Give them kindness.

Sometimes it’s easier to send love and kindness to previous versions of ourselves. …